âItâs just so painful to change positions!â, grimaces Paul. Paul has had a rough week of cleaning out the house that his deceased parents lived in for 50+ years. đŽđ»đïžđ§ As a healer, I sometimes attract people struggling with pain. Pain seems like itâd just be a cut and dry situation. You either feel pain or you donât. Youâre either uncomfortable or youâre not. If you feel pain, itâs bad; if you donât feel pain, itâs good. What else is there even to think about, right?đ đđ€ą I attended another seminar last weekend, and our instructor provided some insights about pain that I had heard several times, however, had not quite absorbed until now. I cannot take credit for the following remarks about pain; they come from the wise teachings of the developer of Network Spinal, Dr. Donald Epstein.â€ïž đ§âđ« Pain is any uncomfortable situation or experience that interrupts your ability to experience the magic or the sacredness of life. If youâre having a lovely conversation with a friend during dinner and your phone on the table beeps and you MUST check it; thatâs pain.đœïžđ”đ If youâre in a beautiful place with someone you love intending to share special time together and all you can think about is work; thatâs pain. Pain is an indication that something must shift NOW! âšđđïž The purpose of pain is communication. The stove is hot, remove your handâŠNOW! 1.) The first type of pain is the pain of avoiding pain. Common questions one might ask themselves with this type of pain are, âWhy me?â or, âwhy not me?â.đ§âđŒâ âWhat is wrong with me? What is the cause of this? Who was right/wrong? Why canât I make the breakthrough? Why am I so blocked?â People will do much more to avoid pain than they will to gain pleasure. Consider this; if there is a lion running after you versus a suitcase full of money in front of you, which would motivate the average human to act quicker? đŠđžđ Avoiding a certain amount of immediate pain wins over gaining immediate pleasure every time. 2.) The second type of pain is the pain of not believing youâre able to manage your circumstances. Ever ask someone how theyâre doing, and they respond with something like, âHow do you think Iâm doing? My car just broke down!âđïžđđ This type of pain always links our beingness with our circumstances. Helpful questions to ask to work with this type of pain are, âWhat can I do to never disempower myself again? How can I express more of my courage now? What is really happening here? How can I face this now? What is on the other side?ââšđ§âđŒđ
3.) The third type of pain is the pain of not making enough progress or not progressing fast enough. âIâm 42, I should be married by now!â.
This type of pain occurs when the amount of bandwidth required to express who you are or who you are meant to be in the world doesnât match your current energy levels. Thereâs not enough energy to make it happen.đșïžđđ
Helpful questions to ask to work with this type of pain are, âWhat can I do to really be ready? How can I conduct an inventory and get rid of that which no longer serves me? How can I accept the old stuff/energy/patterns?â
This type of pain doesnât go away until you do an inventory of who you are, who you must be, and recognize that thereâs more.đ§źđ§
4.) The fourth type of pain is the pain of not knowing your gifts, not having your gifts received, or not accepting otherâs situations or experiences as gifts.
Helpful questions to ask to work with this type of pain include âHow can I grow the gratitude? How can I receive and embody the light that I am? What gift has been given to me? Where is the gift in this?â. And one of my favorite questions, âHow can we be each otherâs wisdom/medicine?âđđœđĄđ
Pain sucks.
Commonly we have the thought, "Let me stop the pain so I can just continue the same life trajectory I was on before."đȘâ€ïžđ§
The cycle just continues and eventually we just end up dropping our standards for life. This is not the path for creating an extraordinary life.
Pain always leaves a gift.đŹđ
Sometimes the best way for me to assist in facilitating healing for a person is by helping them to feel differently about their pain.
And words youâll commonly hear spoken at my practice are, âI know this feels awful right now. But please know it wonât be like this forever. I donât know when or how it will shift, but eventually it will.âđ„»đŸđ
This is an appropriate opportunity to re-plug my friend and colleague Dr. Jay Ueckerâs book, âIf It Didnât Hurtâ, where he discusses this topic extensively.
Hereâs the link to the blog I wrote promoting his book a few months back.đđ
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